29.
I’ve reached the last lap of my 20′s.
It’s funny to think back about how far I’ve come and how much I’ve changed.
I am really hoping for this last lap to continue in an insanely positive direction. Even the last year has brought huge changes. I’m a completely different person!
I have my first grown-up, salaried job (though I will say, sometimes working on a salary sucks), I finished a bankruptcy and I’ve learned so much about myself. I have things I need to work on obviously, but I am so proud of myself for all I’ve accomplished.
I see huge things coming, I’m still in the, “don’t jinx it” phase…so I won’t talk about it on here quite yet.
A few things to work on? I need to get out of my comfort zone. I need to make some girlfriends in this town, I need to focus on myself. I really do. It all begins Monday!
Any advice? I have no idea how to even begin putting myself out there to make friends at this age. I feel a little pathetic even typing that.
i have no girlfriends either *high five*
Congrats!! Sounds like you’ve made some amazing changes. I’m probably no help with the friend situation.. I’m thinking colleagues, friends of them and so on?
Happy Birthday! And welcome to 29 with me. haha.
When I was 25 I had to learn how to make all new friends. And honestly, it only starts with one. I think once out of school it’s a really strange thing to be like “okay; need friends; how do i do this”.
In grad school I didn’t get along with almost my entirely class, partly because I was depressed, partly because I didn’t like them much and mainly because I was so uncomfortable and forgotten how to make friends that I didn’t act like myself. I’m very abrasive when you first meet me so I’ll typically be shy around new groups.
It took me 18 months after moving to make new friends. And it really just started with one. I would suggest that if anyone asks you to do anything – whether you fancy it or not, say yes. Who knows who you meet there? Also, be yourself. I think this is the most important rule. On a related note, be happy. No one wants to be around sad people; they’re a drain and people pick up on that whether we realize it or not. I didn’t make friends till I started to become happy again. And pick a hobby that involves others: Start yoga or go to a painting class or join a softball team. You’ll meet people there.
I should write a blog about this; I went from lots of friends to moving with no friends to lots of friends again. And it is definitely a weird transition in your 20s: How to make friends. But, like anything, once you get over the initial awkwardness of it, it’s totally worth it and snowballs into everything you want. GL!
Awesome job. You’ve really turned your life positive.
Don’t worry about the friends thing. When you’re in your teens and twenties you know tons of people and consider them friends… but as the years go by you realize that the people that you would actually trust with your stuff, your secrets, your family (kids and spouse if you have them) can actually be counted on one hand and sometimes one finger. What’s important is you and living your life the best way you can.
This will be a (another) big year for you. I can feel it…